"ladies answer please"

I dunno, I can smell a jerk a mile away so I don't even know if it matters what's been said, it's how it's being said. "you're beautiful" sounds different when it's really meant, than when it's just a line. Honestly, if you're a nice guy, you have to work harder (imo), girls suck and don't realize nice is the way to go until their shit starts sagging. Best advice- be yourself and the right person will appreciate it.

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bear in mind you won't find anyone who's not looking for you...If there not looking nothing you do or say is going to bring you anything..Put yourself out there so they can find you !

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AlyKat wrote:I dunno, I can smell a jerk a mile away so I don't even know if it matters what's been said, it's how it's being said. "you're beautiful" sounds different when it's really meant, than when it's just a line. Honestly, if you're a nice guy, you have to work harder (imo), girls suck and don't realize nice is the way to go until their shit starts sagging. Best advice- be yourself and the right person will appreciate it.

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there is definitely something to be said about wearing a cologne/perfume, than marinading in it....

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LOL It's those damn Axe commercials giving guys false hope.

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hmmm.... i wear axe.... i don't marinade in it tho....

remind me of "Foul Ole Ron", those people do

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LOL! At marinades in it ..

Well,

My youngest wears Ax. I think the one he likes best is called Dark Temptation.

I think Ax must work .. I can't take him anywhere that some girl isn't coming up 'hugging' him and talking.
Problem is, he's 6 foot 2 inches tall at 16 years old, and he looks a little older than he actually is.
Most of the 'Girls' that are 'talking' to him are 19 to 25 years old!
He won't go to town with me unless he has to .. He says I sabotage him .. Hehehe!!
I tell all the 'ladies' his actual age .. LOL!!

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typomaniac wrote:LOL! At marinades in it ..

Well,

My youngest wears Ax. I think the one he likes best is called Dark Temptation.

I think Ax must work .. I can't take him anywhere that some girl isn't coming up 'hugging' him and talking.
Problem is, he's 6 foot 2 inches tall at 16 years old, and he looks a little older than he actually is.
Most of the 'Girls' that are 'talking' to him are 19 to 25 years old!
He won't go to town with me unless he has to .. He says I sabotage him .. Hehehe!!
I tell all the 'ladies' his actual age .. LOL!!

mind you, it'd probably smell like wet fields....

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lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

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and as an add-on from Chuck's statement about complimenting eyes.....

make sure you know what colour they are before you compliment her on them... there may be a test....

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AlyKat wrote:lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

if you can smell the person before they enter the room, chances are they've either used way too much of whatever they're wearing, or they are in serious need of a bath/shower/power hosing...

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(I've had many a coworker that fits that bill ^^) (and one was for the need of showering.....worst smell I've EVER had the displeasure of experiencing)

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AlyKat wrote:(I've had many a coworker that fits that bill ^^) (and one was for the need of showering.....worst smell I've EVER had the displeasure of experiencing)

still... the good thing was that he was forgetful....
so most of us would avoid him for five or six weeks, and then make a point of being there for rent day, and he'd always manage to forget a week or two on what we owed....

perhaps his own smell interfered with his memory?

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Interesting thread :)

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chidder wrote:

AlyKat wrote:lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

if you can smell the person before they enter the room, chances are they've either used way too much of whatever they're wearing, or they are in serious need of a bath/shower/power hosing...

Which is why I like the scent of Avon's "Wild Country". Such a light musky aroma. I can get lost in it :))

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chidder wrote:

AlyKat wrote:lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

if you can smell the person before they enter the room, chances are they've either used way too much of whatever they're wearing, or they are in serious need of a bath/shower/power hosing...

I have met some that needed the power hosing, not sure a bath or shower would have been enough, from the cologne they wore ..
Be careful of the type of aftershave or cologne you use .. If it's too much or one that has a really strong scent, it can make a woman want to run away as fast as they can .. No matter how 'nice' you are.

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Jubi wrote:*clip*
Which is why I like the scent of Avon's "Wild Country". Such a light musky aroma. I can get lost in it :))

Ooohhh ...
That's one of the really good ones.. I like "Wild country" too.

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If you like to read (honestly) join some book clubs that bookstores have posted......conversation is fairly easy from there on if it starts out discussing books.

Then "ALWAYS" be open to try new things you've never done that she does at least once or twice and NEVER make her feel she's not equal to you (man)..... :)

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I don't know if I'm the best female to answer but I would represent women who are "unflirty" and hard to pick up. Women like me don't make any eye contact and if they see a man doing it, then they look away. I'm sure I'm not the only woman on the planet this way that appears standoffish but I would go to clubs with friends when young and men would look at me and not dare come near me. Only some had the nerve. I was shy around men and awkward. I guess women like this could be rare but overlooked as seen as snobs. I would often tell friends if I was interested in someone and have them tell the man. Men didn't seem to like that once we were in our twenties...lol very junior high I guess.

So some women you can't go by eye contact because they will look away or walk by you like they aren't interested. You can tell because they don't make eye contact or flirt with anyone. But stand with friends peeking around. You have to go up to them and they will appreciate it believe me.

However, I never liked to be bothered in a non-pickup place, to be taken by surprise. Like in a store or library. If you are shy maybe you are off guard in those places and don't feel comfortable. Some people are just really shy and again "unflirty". Like "how dare you try to pick me up at the library". Doesn't mean they aren't available. They might feel more comfortable in an environment like a party or a bar with friends. In a place where they are relaxed. Depends if like don't mind someone shy at first. Doesn't mean they are shy in general. I was only shy in romantic situations when I was younger.

I did meet my husband in a bar in my hometown and I made the first move. I had seen him around and thought he was very handsome but didn't have the nerve to go up to him. Then on one occasion it turned out my friend was flirting with his friend, who we knew from high school, so my husband was standing a few feet away. I had a few drinks in me and just said, "Hey what's your name?" Then asked if he had a cigarette and he didn't but wanted one so I went and bummed one for the both of us. Then that was it, ice was broken. Once ice was broken I was fine. By this point in time I was no longer shy, but had to make the first move with him. He later told me most women had made the first move with him in his experience.

What I would suggest for the average women is what other people did about eye contact...make it with them and then watch theirs. The give a little smile that is your own style, something friendly if she locks eyes with you. Some guys grin and raise their eyebrows, some guys smile and nod...whatever is your style will show your natural charm. If she smiles back then wait a bit and then get up and go over and ask her how she's doing and introduce yourself. Be a gentleman. Nothing smarmy or any come ons. If you are looking for something real. Use your natural charm in conversing and if you hit it off...good. If you don't...well then you don't. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

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mikegarth wrote:Here is my approach (a cute new girl worker at a convenient stop)

Hey your new here.

(she says yes just started today)

I'm Mike, Nice to meet you

(nice to meet YOU.)

I know every body here

I come in here everyday so I might as well know your name lol

(she says here name)

Hi so&so

Is that a good starter or was I just lucky?

Sounds real good Mike. So you could follow up by chatting with her in a friendly way next few times you go to the store, using your own personality like you did already that will shine through. See if her eyes light up when you are chatting. That's a good way to tell if someone is interested. Or they get a flush in their cheeks. Or you just get a gut feeling they might be interested. Then you could ask what they like to do in their spare time, ease into it. Ask what movies they like. I wouldn't stand at the counter forever chatting her up but take it cool. Then ask her out to one of the activities she likes.

There's something to be said about building a friendship too. If it's someone you think is skittish and will turn you down but you really like. Don't come on too strong. So instead of the more formal, "I'd like to take you to a movie"..."Hey do ya wanna go grab a movie?"

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Jubi wrote:

chidder wrote:

AlyKat wrote:lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

if you can smell the person before they enter the room, chances are they've either used way too much of whatever they're wearing, or they are in serious need of a bath/shower/power hosing...

Which is why I like the scent of Avon's "Wild Country". Such a light musky aroma. I can get lost in it :))

Going shopping tonight lol

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axe is one of those you don't need too much of.... mind you, the U.S. ones may be stronger... still... use sparingly, not like the guys in the ads....

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rokin1 wrote:

Jubi wrote:

chidder wrote:

AlyKat wrote:lol everyone is talking about axe now (which for the record, I think smells good, some of em anyway)

Lesson learned from the diversion. Cologne = good. Marinading in it=bad.

if you can smell the person before they enter the room, chances are they've either used way too much of whatever they're wearing, or they are in serious need of a bath/shower/power hosing...

Which is why I like the scent of Avon's "Wild Country". Such a light musky aroma. I can get lost in it :))

Going shopping tonight lol

LoL :D

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mikegarth wrote:I got wild country cologne, axe, tag & old spice

I prefer wild country cause axe and old spice is too strong and tag I can spray the whole bottle on and 2 seconds I can't smell It anymore.

Excellent Mike :))

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one liner........i may not be fred flinstone.......but i can sure make your ""bedrock""................lol,lol

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Seriously Jubi, you don't look your age!!! Look way younger!

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^^^^^^ Good one ;)

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TY icarus :)

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Jubi wrote:TY icarus :)

You are very welcome! :)

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mikegarth wrote:ladies only tell me what make you fall for a man?

Traps, pitfalls, etc.

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Mike, my hubby made me feel beautiful and special. It wasn't in what he said but how he said it. Nor was it in what he did, but the sincerity behind the gestures. He still does to this day. And I love him even more than I ever thought I could.

So my thoughts are to treat women with kindness and respect. Bring them up when they are down. Keep the romance alive. And always make them feel valued not only as a life partner but also as an individual. That is the best advice I can give you from my perspective. I hope it helps :))

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What makes you fall for a woman?

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mikegarth wrote:ladies only tell me what make you fall for a man?

I haven't had time to read through this whole thread yet... but you ask this so I will respond with MY answer.

I like someone who is funny but sincere. I can usually tell if a guy is trying to pull one over on me (in other words, I can normally tell that he's just got one thing on his mind). I want someone who can remember the little things, like my birthday or something I said in a conversation the night before. I realize no one can remember everything that is said, but if I find myself having to repeat things over & over again, I know he wasn't paying attention. If he can make me laugh, half the battle is won but he also needs to be there for me when I need him.

I do NOT like someone who contacts me all the time though. I want someone who will call when he says he will but I like a little mystery at times too. Being in my face all the time (like emailing me/texting me/calling me ALL day long gets old fast). Being "too nice" can be a turn off. I know it's a fine line to be on but trying too hard to be nice all the time comes across as desperate.

Compliment me, but be real about it. Saying "I like your eyes" but not remembering what color they are if I close them & ask you what color they are will win you NO points. At least know what color they are. ;)

Don't go overboard with compliments though. I once went on a date with a guy who told me throughout the night that he liked my hair, my rings, my shirt, my shoes, my smile, my eyes....the list went on & on. I was VERY uncomfortable.

I like when he asks me about myself, about my life, my family, my interests. I do NOT like when he gets personal, like makes references to my body in a sexual kind of tone (for instance, a guy I met online asked me last night if I had a nice butt--NOT a good move for him to have made!). That is a turn off.

In general, think about the things you would want a woman to do for you. I think mel has a great point. Just think of the things that you like & don't like. In a lot of ways men & women are alike.

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Sum_Southern_Sugar wrote:

Novella wrote:...If you're approaching a woman soley because she's got a nice rack though... I doubt she wants to hear from you anyways :)

yeah. i'd lie about that one for sure.

tell her she has nice eyes instead, but maybe know what color they actually are before ya try that. ;-)

drat...now it all makes sense...so much for thinkin i had nice eyes...lol

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when it comes to the eye's...
I always say;
Well they are mostly white....
Consequently I'm here seeking advice ..

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I haven't read the whole thread..did skim through page 1 however and wanted to say something about the "bar" scene.

All the men that I've been involved with and am no longer with..I DID NOT meet in bars. I think next time I may try a bar!

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mikegarth wrote:Ladies I need your input on dating, I'm 27 years old, I would like to know what you would like to here from a man. Like an approach. What Is a tasteful complement tasteful approach on introducing myself to a nice woman. How to know If there taken already?

Just be yourself...say something like, hello, I noticed you and would like to introduce myself. If you're available for dinner sometime, here's my cell phone number. (That's how Frasier does it, anyway. ;)

If you're in the right environment, ask her to dance. Afterward, invite her for a cup of coffee.

Stay sober...you may not know who you're dealing with at the end of the night...it could be another man! lolol

Edited to add: My hubby and I have been married for 27 yrs...we eloped 11 days after we met!

We are now approaching our 60's, so even though we're a product from another generation, I believe that most women would like to be treated with respect and dignity. Manners count, so don't be afraid to open the door for her...even though she may slam it in your face. lol There are alot of fish in the ocean, as they say. :)

P.S. The last place on earth I'd look for a date is in a bar...or online!

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mikegarth wrote:

Stay sober...you may not know who you're dealing with at the end of the night...it could be another man! lolol

LOL, yeah...then you'll be here asking for advice over how to get rid of your date! ;) LOL

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VGFan4Life wrote:

Arizonagal wrote:
Stay sober...you may not know who you're dealing with at the end of the night...it could be another man! lolol

LOL, yeah...then you'll be here asking for advice over how to get rid of your date! ;) LOL

Ain't that the truth! lol

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JeNnIfErRrRrR wrote:

Sum_Southern_Sugar wrote:

Novella wrote:...If you're approaching a woman soley because she's got a nice rack though... I doubt she wants to hear from you anyways :)

yeah. i'd lie about that one for sure.

tell her she has nice eyes instead, but maybe know what color they actually are before ya try that. ;-)

drat...now it all makes sense...so much for thinkin i had nice eyes...lol

he doesn't like guys talkin in here JJ. are you trying to get me in trouble?

p.s. you have extremely cute ear lobes. :-)

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Sum_Southern_Sugar wrote:

JeNnIfErRrRrR wrote:

Sum_Southern_Sugar wrote:

Novella wrote:...If you're approaching a woman soley because she's got a nice rack though... I doubt she wants to hear from you anyways :)

yeah. i'd lie about that one for sure.

tell her she has nice eyes instead, but maybe know what color they actually are before ya try that. ;-)

drat...now it all makes sense...so much for thinkin i had nice eyes...lol

he doesn't like guys talkin in here JJ. are you trying to get me in trouble?

p.s. you have extremely cute ear lobes. :-)

If eyes are code for "nice rack" what are ear lobes code for???

sorry...haha

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pardon me ma'am, you have such a cute little nose, could you tell me if you think this handkerchief smells like chloroform?

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haha I like that one!!!

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this is mean...he-he! oh well....

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Well I like it!

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;)

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shut up Mel

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