"ladies answer please"

Mandy wrote:My fella was ridiculously drunk when he finally approached me..although it wasn't the first time we had met..he walked in, plonked a huge kiss on my lips as I was singing (it was karaoke)..and we have been together ever since :)

I forgive men i already know that do it, except one evening I remember in particular................

I was standing waiting for my taxi and a serious fitty I have had a crush on for a while appeared, he went round the corner to do what most men do at that time of night..................then he called my name..............Chelle...

I walked round to find after relieving himself he hadn't bothered to put back the body part and he uttered the immortal words in such a hard done by childlike voice......................just hold it ..............lolololol

I replied no and then he acted as if i had said something wrong pmsl

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LOL!! Men are such funny creatures!!

*waits for the men to give their accounts of funny women*

lol

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Mandy wrote:LOL!! Men are such funny creatures!!

*waits for the men to give their accounts of funny women*

lol

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i do have one complaint...please ladies dont kiss with ur eyes wide open...it gives me the willies....scares me ,lol..i was snoogin a girl and had a peep.. her eyes were so open and didnt blink, ..i was like omg..dont kill me,lol..

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icarus wrote: I think the 'Sweet Guy' thing doesn't really work...at least not for me!! LOL! I had many women tell me that I am very cool, an awesome and amazing guy, You are trustworthy, etc.....blah blah and BLAH!! LOL! But when it comes to the next step or in other words, the step after friendship, they bail out saying that they see me only as a friend...And I'm like, WTF!! LOL!! Women! Hard to understand you creatures! LOL! :P

It very much worked on me :) my husband was a sweet guy,he was one o my closest friends before our romance developed and here we are now 13 years on with 6 children so it worked lol!

I think some of the best relationships develop from friendships with guys like that,i find the problem with sweet guys is that they seem to be shy which can give the impression that they are not interested.

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1 child every 2 years? You are a braver woman than I Melonia...lol

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Lol Mandy brave or crazy i think is the question,but that does include a set of twins so i got a bit of a longer break having two in one go lol

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gotta watch those sweet and kind sometimes they turn the other cheek when you start going steady and become boyfriend and girlfriend
and i'm meaning both parties here

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:::::::::::::rolls over grabbing body pillow murmuring, "take away my cafeine withdrawal headache sweatheart":::::::::::::: :::falls back asleep::::::::

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mikegarth wrote:Here is my approach (a cute new girl worker at a convenient stop)

Hey your new here.

(she says yes just started today)

I'm Mike, Nice to meet you

(nice to meet YOU.)

I know every body here

I come in here everyday so I might as well know your name lol

(she says here name)

Hi so&so

Is that a good starter or was I just lucky?

and from that intro, any time you see her you're free to ask how she is and get to know her a little better....

also, now you have a name to the face, should you happen to bump into her outside of work, you can say hi and "catch up"

just take things easy and see how things go

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Don't forget this huge fabulous site here where deep friendships are made and enrich our lives through music, and much much more...our personal issues, our ups, our downs...these friendships here are priceless.

If some of you don't already know...

Over two years ago, I met a friend here, (Paddy19), just the two of us being ourselves, singing, sharing computer tips, and it led to the most incredible relationship of my life, so we met offline, dated, and were married a year ago.

We've both never been happier in our entire life. It's real, it's possible, and besides what we have in common at this place, we have more in common and fit together and love each other so much offline, we bless the day we came here.

Even if you just meet friends, make friends, have friends here...and don't make a love match,...you love your friends too right?

Singsnap brings people together...no pickup lines required.

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Do people REALLY use these pickup lines, talk to strangers in the street etc.?? Why would you talk to a stranger?

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If somebody talked to me in the street, or even asked me my name, I would do my best to avoid him in the future. It's so embarrassing. Why do people do that on purpose?

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mel wrote:Do people REALLY use these pickup lines, talk to strangers in the street etc.?? Why would you talk to a stranger?

some people randomly talk to strangers to pass the time....

and um, don't we all talk to strangers on here....

i mean, everyone is a stranger before we know them, right?

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mel wrote:If somebody talked to me in the street, or even asked me my name, I would do my best to avoid him in the future. It's so embarrassing. Why do people do that on purpose?

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i have, in the past, been asked for directions by complete strangers, and by coincidence been heading in that direction, so rather than just giving them directions, i've shown them.... smalltalk did occur on the way....

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Yes, I give them directions and try to avoid them in the future LOL

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My dad used to say ..
"A stranger is a friend you just haven't gotten to know yet."

It doesn't bother me to talk to strangers ..

Talking to strange people, on the other hand, can leave me a little unnerved ..

:) .

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I'm actually not scared of strangers. It doesn't bother me to talk to them either. I just feel that it would be good to avoid anyone who asks me for my name or tries to get personal information from me.
I don't get how ANYONE could possibly be willing to start a relationship with a complete stranger. Freaks me out. Avoid avoid avoid.

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typomaniac wrote:.

My dad used to say ..
"A stranger is a friend you just haven't gotten to know yet."

It doesn't bother me to talk to strangers ..

Talking to strange people, on the other hand, can leave me a little unnerved ..

:) .

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mel wrote:I'm actually not scared of strangers. It doesn't bother me to talk to them either. I just feel that it would be good to avoid anyone who asks me for my name or tries to get personal information from me.
I don't get how ANYONE could possibly be willing to start a relationship with a complete stranger. Freaks me out. Avoid avoid avoid.

things went from there over time, and now we're engaged.... living in 2 separate countries whilst we get everything sorted out, and we'll get married as soon as everything is set...

had i not read a profile and thought, this is someone i need to speak to, well, i'd probably never have even sung anything on Snap to begin with (which may well have spared a lot of ears, so sorry about that)

strangers are friends we haven't met yet, too true....

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SingSnap is not the street. There are a few differences. I've made friends here, too.

I just thought I'd let the thread starter know that if I were the girl he'd asked for her name I would avoid him from now on. Eye contact doesn't equal "interested" either. I do look people in the eyes when they talk to me. It's just being polite. Doesn't mean that I like them.

But on the other hand, it's obvious that I'm the last person on Earth who should give dating advice lol.

Well, I really should have stayed out of this thread anyway. Have a nice weekend! :)

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mel wrote:I'm actually not scared of strangers. It doesn't bother me to talk to them either. I just feel that it would be good to avoid anyone who asks me for my name or tries to get personal information from me.
I don't get how ANYONE could possibly be willing to start a relationship with a complete stranger. Freaks me out. Avoid avoid avoid.

If you don't start relationships with complete strangers..................how do you start any relationship fullstop??? lol

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not at all

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chidder wrote:

typomaniac wrote:.

My dad used to say ..
"A stranger is a friend you just haven't gotten to know yet."

It doesn't bother me to talk to strangers ..

Talking to strange people, on the other hand, can leave me a little unnerved ..

:) .

you seem to manage talking to me just fine.... :P

You look like a much younger version of my brother .. :) .
Your 'family'.

Like a nephew ..

Um .. come to think of it .. some of my family .. there not strangers .. but they are strange.

:| .

Oh well .. can't choose your family .. but you can choose your friends that you think of as family .. Right?

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I met my husband in a bar. It was the first time I had been buzzed in years lol. I'm normally really good at names and for the life of me I had to ask him what his name was several times. It was almost closing time and there weren't very many people in the bar. My friend was getting a kick out of the fact that I was pretty goofy being buzzed and she explained to him I don't normally drink lol. He kept finding ways to make me laugh, not that it was hard at the time. But he was honestly captivated by my eyes (still is to this day lol).

We made plans to meet there again a few days later. I was sober this time and was so thankful that his good looks weren't just the liquor talking the time before lol. We played pool and were able to just be ourselves. Then they brought in a little karaoke machine. lol. He sang a song for me. Didn't know whether to run or not but it was very sweet lol.

We spent most of our time together at the bar. I always stick to Pepsi though lol. We've been together ever since. :)

But seriously he didn't try to come up with any lines. That's what got me. I flick the guys with lines away at a drop of a hat ;)

Your conversation you put up about being in the convenient store. That's perfect. Keep it light every time you go in there. But conversations like that are the best :)

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A lot of it has to do with a persons age. I lost interest in contrived anything in my early 20's or late teens, it just wasn't worth it, and such lines were so damned cliche they usually created eye-rolls, People seem to forget, the opposite gender is HUMAN they are still people, and if you talk to them without using tacky lines they can comprehend the content and subject matter..Some never resort to lines at all.. I just went to place where it was possible to meet people and had no "plan" on how to do it... Just "hi" and body language were enough. Said what I felt like saying... If I didn't feel like saying anything, the less I said the better...Women can start conversation too.. I learned that those I met feeling the need to use tacky lines just weren't even worth meeting. Some things really happen more naturally and when it's time... A simple Hi to break the ice, and talk to the woman like she's "a person" not an object that needs "a line".

You do what is comfortable for YOU... What works for one person can be totally goofy if another tries the same approach. There's no one way to meet people. If it's an artificial line that shows... If it's something you are really interested in regarding a sport or hobby, THAT is a bigger turn-on...

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typomaniac wrote:

chidder wrote:

typomaniac wrote:.

My dad used to say ..
"A stranger is a friend you just haven't gotten to know yet."

It doesn't bother me to talk to strangers ..

Talking to strange people, on the other hand, can leave me a little unnerved ..

:) .

you seem to manage talking to me just fine.... :P

You look like a much younger version of my brother .. :) .
Your 'family'.

Like a nephew ..

Um .. come to think of it .. some of my family .. there not strangers .. but they are strange.

:| .

Oh well .. can't choose your family .. but you can choose your friends that you think of as family .. Right?

in theory, you can choose your friends that you think of as family... occasionally one turns up that still reminds you of that weird uncle.....

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Steven_Kaplan wrote:A lot of it has to do with a persons age. I lost interest in contrived anything in my early 20's or late teens, it just wasn't worth it, and such lines were so damned cliche they usually created eye-rolls, People seem to forget, the opposite gender is HUMAN they are still people, and if you talk to them without using tacky lines they can comprehend the content and subject matter..Some never resort to lines at all.. I just went to place where it was possible to meet people and had no "plan" on how to do it... Just "hi" and body language were enough. Said what I felt like saying... If I didn't feel like saying anything, the less I said the better...Women can start conversation too.. I learned that those I met feeling the need to use tacky lines just weren't even worth meeting. Some things really happen more naturally and when it's time... A simple Hi to break the ice, and talk to the woman like she's "a person" not an object that needs "a line".

You do what is comfortable for YOU... What works for one person can be totally goofy if another tries the same approach. There's no one way to meet people. If it's an artificial line that shows... If it's something you are really interested in regarding a sport or hobby, THAT is a bigger turn-on...

i just stuck with being a nice guy and easy to talk to... sure meant i had a lot of female friends that were willing to talk to me about anything.... it may not have turned into many "relationships" but i was never short of a hug or a friendly smile when i was feeling down

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chidder wrote:

typomaniac wrote:

chidder wrote:

typomaniac wrote:.

My dad used to say ..
"A stranger is a friend you just haven't gotten to know yet."

It doesn't bother me to talk to strangers ..

Talking to strange people, on the other hand, can leave me a little unnerved ..

:) .

you seem to manage talking to me just fine.... :P

You look like a much younger version of my brother .. :) .
Your 'family'.

Like a nephew ..

Um .. come to think of it .. some of my family .. there not strangers .. but they are strange.

:| .

Oh well .. can't choose your family .. but you can choose your friends that you think of as family .. Right?

so your brother is a long haired, goatee'd biker too?? i suppose you're going to tell me next that he rides a vstar 650 classic....
some family are, by nature, strange... i think that's their purpose... to make you realise that you're not as bad as you think you are :D

in theory, you can choose your friends that you think of as family... occasionally one turns up that still reminds you of that weird uncle.....

Why yes ...

Except .. his bike was a 1968 800cc Harley ..
And his hair was almost to his waste .. it's just below his shoulders now. He started getting it cut shorter when he was in his late 40's.

:) .

Oh, and a full beard with the goatee as well ..

:) .

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It may have been a 1000cc .. not sure .. I don't know that much about motorcycles ..
The only thing I am sure of .. is you cannot ride one up a tree and if you try to, even by accident .. your brother will never again let you ride his bike by yourself. :| .

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typomaniac wrote:It may have been a 1000cc .. not sure .. I don't know that much about motorcycles ..
The only thing I am sure of .. is you cannot ride one up a tree and if you try to, even by accident .. your brother will never again let you ride his bike by yourself. :| .

68 harley? not sure if they've changed the engine size all that much... i know that pretty much all of them are 1349cc except for the sportsters, which are 800's...

and no, they don't do very well with tree climbing...

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mikegarth wrote:

mel wrote:If somebody talked to me in the street, or even asked me my name, I would do my best to avoid him in the future. It's so embarrassing. Why do people do that on purpose?

With all respect, your friends were one strangers one time right?

So why avoid someone unless there are strange, who is very nice ?

I was wondering about this too ...

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mikegarth wrote:Here is my approach (a cute new girl worker at a convenient stop)

Hey your new here.

(she says yes just started today)

I'm Mike, Nice to meet you

(nice to meet YOU.)

I know every body here

I come in here everyday so I might as well know your name lol

(she says here name)

Hi so&so

Is that a good starter or was I just lucky?

Great approach.....if I were her, it would definitely work.

All the advice I could offer has already been said. Maybe I can come up with something new later on. I think the nice guy is the best guy. Just be yourself, be kind, be real and everything will fall into place :))

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chidder wrote:

typomaniac wrote:It may have been a 1000cc .. not sure .. I don't know that much about motorcycles ..
The only thing I am sure of .. is you cannot ride one up a tree and if you try to, even by accident .. your brother will never again let you ride his bike by yourself. :| .

i haven't let my brother anywhere near my bikes.....

68 harley? not sure if they've changed the engine size all that much... i know that pretty much all of them are 1349cc except for the sportsters, which are 800's...

and no, they don't do very well with tree climbing...

my brother's both know touching my Harley is a no no touch it and get your arms broke lol
only 3 people ever touched my Harley and that was Matty & her father and brother cause they respect Harley's :)
except for Matty , her father and brother own Harley's themselves :)

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I'll talk to anybody, assuming I have something to say to them. Sometimes not overtly however. Often a comment will elicit a response even if it is indirectly made without looking at the person... You need to get some sense as to whether a person is receptive... Nobody can teach that to you... It's also important NOT to be overly "intense" taking yourself too seriously during this process, if you are totally rigid standing around all stiff like Al Gore with a stiff expression using a canned monotone line you come across as a talking maniken, not a good thing. Expression matters, tone matters... Something about the process has to be "you" and natural. You don't want to turn your presentation into a SNL parody...Whatever you do, you have to feel somewhat comfortable. This isn't a frat competition to hit on the most girls in a night....

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Okay worst line of all time.. " Hi, I'm the asshole." I knew this and still married him! and he lives up to it everyday!

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But on a serious not, respect and honesty are key factors to a healthy relationship. If you can't stand to sit across the table with some one in complete utter silence, you shouldn't be with them..advice given to me way back when. :)

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Best opening line...Well..you ain't the prettiest face in here but I've seen far worse...wanna dance?

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another line:" You look like my 3rd wife.."
" Oh really how many times have you
Been married?"
" Two."

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Be yourself and don't worry about a 'line'. Say what's real. That was always appealing to me. :-). Like....hey....wanna dance? because you were wanting to dance. Anything contrived is boring and a total turn-off. Just be you...it's all good!

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compliments depend on the person... some are receptive, some aren't....

my fiancée still doesn't seem to believe me when i compliment her... :/

some fish for compliments, some don't... depends on the person... also, i suppose, depends on what you go for in a partner

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mikegarth wrote:what about complements?

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mikegarth wrote:I'm talking about love, Not a one night stand people. lol.

I know line's don't work and pretty much know what not to do so could you tell me what I could do?

Smiles....just do what comes naturally and ye heart will follow...and everything will fall into place...thats my input... Good Luck....

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the more ya 'study' on what to do or say, the more 'fake' it will look.

do like a lot up there are saying. be yourself - be honest

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chidder wrote:compliments depend on the person... some are receptive, some aren't....

my fiancée still doesn't seem to believe me when i compliment her... :/

some fish for compliments, some don't... depends on the person... also, i suppose, depends on what you go for in a partner

this is true. If you're looking for a confident, intelligent girl, and aren't looking to just hook up ,then approach her that way. Compliment anything but the physical. (we look in the mirror enough before we leave, we know what we look like)
Be honest and respectful. No one can fault you for that. To me, I hating being hit on. I feel like a piece of meat ( I still hate it, I'm 25) It is insulting for someone to approach me all "hey baby, you looking hots tonight. Although if done in the Adam Sandler voice, I must admit I'd laugh lol) I'd rather something creative or funny or down right real if you can't crack jokes, like, excuse me, my name is --- I noticed you and would regret not introduciing myself, I don't normally do this, whatever. Just start a conversation. Ask a question. Hey does this shirt make me look fat? lol who could resist.

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