"ladies answer please"

Don't say a word, just give them lots of sneaky eye contact when raising your beer glass... if in a social drinking environment...

They'll probably come to you..... if they don't

phew you'll be a batchelor!!!! that's good.. really! :)

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Well don't use the line that was used on my g/f the last time we were out.... guy walked up to her leaned very close to her and said... wanna F***? BAD IDEA.... thinkin subtle would be the way to go.. ;-)

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Hey well if he asks enough times someone is bound to say yes..lol

Walk out of a place if when you walk in... all the women hold up their arms in the air and start shouting "me me me!!" at you

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Don't think we are helping much Kya lol

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HAHA Connie.. well if we get all the "what not to do's" out of the way it betters his odds right??lol

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look for a ring on her finger for starters.......

and don't say anything about angels falling from heaven either........

or nice outfit...it would look even better on my bedroom floor....prolly a really bad idea

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HAHA Tan.. Maybe if he was holding roses when he said it?

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kyafirst wrote:HAHA Tan.. Maybe if he was holding roses when he said it?

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well...then just be yourself and be sincere

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Be yourself and be honest....have a sense of humor!

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Well Mike.. Girls love a guy who listens. Someone who is considerate. Chivalry is NOT dead contrary to popular belief. Not saying you have to pull up on a white horse and wearing armor with a slayed dragon over your shoulder but little things mean SO much.

A note to say I love you or I am thinking about you if it isn't at the love stage yet instead of a farting ecard is a good one ...

CALL HER... Don't say you will call then "forget" or wait for three weeks. Let her know she is important enough to pick up the phone and dial it.

Do the things she likes to do sometimes. You don't have to subject yourself to chick flicks daily but once in awhile chick flick instead of ultimate fighting marathon dvd's are nice... unless of course she is into UFC..lol

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*snap* ladylikepsych lol

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Most girls swoon when a guy walks up to them in a bar, and asks "Are you pregnant, or just fat?". That pickup line has spared me from meeting many a prospective ex !

Usually to break the ice I'll say something like

"Hello, I am 53, unemployed, and live in my moms basement, I wear a lot of cologne to hide the body odor, How about a date ?"

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Steven_Kaplan wrote:Most girls swoon when a guy walks up to them in a bar, and asks "Are you pregnant, or just fat?". That pickup line has spared me from meeting many a prospective ex !

*smacks steven with a funky carp*

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mikegarth wrote:well I'm to sensitive for fighting movies anyway.
unless It's the incredible hulk (tv series)

I like chick flicks cause it has chicks in it. lol

GOOD MAN!! ;-)

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Chick flicks are good, especially the type with two chicks :) and that realistic looking romantic stuff :) Get's my eyes all watery from the romance !!

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Steven_Kaplan wrote:Chick flicks are good, especially the type with two chicks :) and that realistic looking romantic stuff :) Get's my eyes all watery from the romance !!

Don't make me hurt you..lol

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:::another funky carp please ?::::::

Well, as a lesbian I should have a right to answer too !!!

Seriously, Lines are contrived, if you feel compelled to use a line, you SHOULD AVOID doing so.. Just smile and say hi... If she's interested and you are shy you'll get some body language or a sign... Don't make it tougher than you need to. Try to act somewhat confident, NOT desparate, insecure, and body language is the most powerful tool.... (when I see a girl of interest I usually drop my pants on the spot).

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First off, just be yourself...but if you must use a line...

GOOD LINE: Hi, my name is "_ _ _ _ _", do you mind if I flirt with you?

BAD LINE: That outfit your wearing would look great in a crumpled heap next to my bed.

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Wait for the woman to approach you ! Just sit there crying and sobbing.... Play on their emotions !!! When a girl approaches ask "Do you mind if I call you Mommy?" ? They REALLY LOVE that !!

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Avoid lines !! Be yourself, say hello if there's eye contact, if your insecure, sobeit, there's nothing wrong with it.. it's you... often the girl will say something, don't contrive stuff... really, girls aren't fish that bite certain bait on a hook... They are people and they are all different.

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oops, dup post.. What is more important than worrying about lines to use, is learning signs to look for regarding whether or not a girl might be interested or receptive to begin with. I would ask girls here how they show a guy at a bar that they are receptive to meeting him ! I would NOT go up "cold" to just any woman. You can't really initially know if a woman is involved with somebody, people aren't "taken", if they are involved with somebody they might still dance with you, chat with you, and let you know their status in terms of a committed relationship. You can't know initially if a woman is "committed to somebody" most of the time, nor can you know if she's a "nice person"... There's no risk free total beginning.

You stated:
"I'm talking about love, Not a one night stand people. lol."

You don't find "love" when you meet a person initially. Love is something that develops, it is something that must be nurtured, it takes work, time, knowing a person... You don't meet "love" at a bar. Also, do not assume a bar is the place to find a relationship that easily will develop into a loving relationship. There are better places to meet women IMHO.. Places where alcohol is NOT a factor, nor do you take the risk of meeting bar-fly type females... The best place to meet somebody is at a gathering where you both will share a common interest. There is little ice-breaking that needs to be done assuming you both are enthusiastic about a similar hobby. Join an outing club, what are your hobbies ? etc...

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Intelligent conversation is the biggest turn on in the world for me. Philosophical discussion, art, writing, poetry, music, books, good movies... If someone approaches me with "Hey you're hot!" or "Wow you're really pretty!" I usually brush them off like lint. Not to say I wouldn't want to hear that AFTER I get to know them... haha... but it does not work as an approach for me.

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P.S. You can usually tell if a woman is 'taken' as in she is in love with someone else. Not all married women are 'taken'. Some are unhappy and on the verge of divorce... don't count them out but make sure you know what the hell you're getting yourself into!

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shandakr wrote: "Wow you're really pretty!" I usually brush them off like lint.

I used to get told that all the time. I got used to it :)

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P.P.S. Bars are NOT good places to meet women with whom you wish to share a long lasting and meaningful relationship. Go to places YOU enjoy going to with no expectation of meeting someone... birds of a feather flock...

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I think the 'Sweet Guy' thing doesn't really work...at least not for me!! LOL! I had many women tell me that I am very cool, an awesome and amazing guy, You are trustworthy, etc.....blah blah and BLAH!! LOL! But when it comes to the next step or in other words, the step after friendship, they bail out saying that they see me only as a friend...And I'm like, WTF!! LOL!! Women! Hard to understand you creatures! LOL! :P

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icarus wrote: I think the 'Sweet Guy' thing doesn't really work...at least not for me!! LOL! I had many women tell me that I am very cool, an awesome and amazing guy, You are trustworthy, etc.....blah blah and BLAH!! LOL! But when it comes to the next step or in other words, the step after friendship, they bail out saying that they see me only as a friend...And I'm like, WTF!! LOL!! Women! Hard to understand you creatures! LOL! :P

Those are immature women. I used to be the same way.... I would run like hell from the 'nice' guys. You don't want any part of that kind of woman... they are not ready for a real relationship....

You want a real relationship? Find a woman who has traveled the road a bit... young women, especially these days, are not the least bit interested in settling down, they just want to have fun! Me? I want both but fun to me is being with a person who treats me as a friend... respects me, honors me, adores me and says so... someone who shares my interests and doesn't mind just sitting 'round doing nothing together. :)

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yea i agree with shandakr....totally....your a great lookin guy....i dunno about most...but i like a good personality...sumone who is honest, trust worthy ,compasionate,sincere,has a good sense of humor....stay out of bars lookin ...if u find her there ...she pretty much will alwayz be a barfly....avoid women like that like the plague...its their second home...to sum their first home...nice walks on the beach ...curled up watchin a good movie....a guy whose not afraid to watch tear jerkin movies and cries along with the story...just be your true self hun ...there are sum good women still left out there waiting on a special guy like yourself:)

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Oh! I am 30 years old and I found out a long time back that bars and disco clubs are not the best places in the world to find a relationship! LOL! I think the best places to find that person would be at a college, at recreational clubs (sports clubs) or even hanging out with a group of friends, with some girls in the middle or.....hmmm....SingSnap??? LMAO!! Anyway, it seems like it gets harder and harder everyday to find the right person. I don't have tattoos, long hair, etc that most women like....I don't really need those!! I just try to be myself....like me or leave me, kind of deal!! LOL!

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You want to know what kind of women are at bars?....I'm going to break a rule of mine, and judge on stereotypes, but....Bars, I agree, they're either hard core alcoholics being in a bar---hence an excuse to drink and not be judged, or Cougars looking to bump uglies with a younger guy, weekend binge drinker partygirls who get stinking drunk and french kiss other girls on the dance floor while guys cheer them on and then they puke later after drinking too much, young women who like to tease/flirt to bump up their self esteem by hoping to be approached with any crap pick up line to get free drinks and a dance (it's a game for them), or just a gal who likes to get away from their current relationship who's at home, meaning their spouse or boyfriend that hates dancing and loud music and so that girl is obviously just having a night out with the girls and will always pay for their own drinks and not fall for pick up lines...so...all those, not serious relationship dating material.

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i have to say that i'm a little surprised at the negative image of a woman that would dare go into a bar being portrayed here.

sure, if she has a stool with her name on it, maybe so, but....

i'd bet that almost every person trashing these 'tramps' has been in a bar before!

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i say forget about where she is:

don't be going places to 'seek' - just keep ur eyes open wherever you are. my opinion, for what it is worth.

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I wouldn't discount a single place on earth to meet someone.

Every situation is what you make it. People who go to bars are fun-loving, social, enjoy the scene and have enough gusto to go out there and tackle a very tiresome atmosphere. There's no shame in meeting someone there. The same people who go to bars go to grocery stores, libraries, your friends party, etc.,

As a 28 yr old female who wants a guy...

A) Desperation ain't cool
B) Neither is pure aloofness

If you're interested in her: Tell her.

Before you approach her, ask yourself WHAT attracted you to her and just tell her.

On how to approach depends on where you're at physically. If it is a bar, it's a bit more sketchy because drunk people can be stupid.

But I think every woman loves a guy who has a sense of humor and is friendly and encouraging. So my advice is do the eye contact thing, make sure she notices you but don't do it for too long because it gets freaky and annoying. A couple times. Then just walk up to her and tell her about whatever you find interesting. Her smile, her laugh, her zest for life, etc.,

Approaching the chik shouldn't be the biggest problem. Here's the clincher... Once you talk to her:

A) Show interest in HER life. Questions about her.
B) Do the little things to show you're thinking of her
C) Be goofy, be yourself.
D) Don't sell yourself short. Just make sure any potential relationship starts of balanced so later on down the road it's a two-way street. Otherwise it gets lop-sided and hard to drive on ;)

Honesty is an amazing thing and you can't go wrong with it. If you're approaching a woman soley because she's got a nice rack though... I doubt she wants to hear from you anyways :)

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Oh.. By the way...

Opening conversation starters...

"What do you do for a living" .. Boring. There's probably only a handful of people on the planet who actually enjoy their job so just be a bit more creative in your endeavour. Like the chik on the Bachelor who asks a guy what condiments he likes on his hot dog (To fit with a theory of hers).. Memorable, funny and opens up the door for a fun conversation.

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Novella wrote:...If you're approaching a woman soley because she's got a nice rack though... I doubt she wants to hear from you anyways :)

yeah. i'd lie about that one for sure.

tell her she has nice eyes instead, but maybe know what color they actually are before ya try that. ;-)

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I 'm Not A lady But i'll share a lil secret wid ya ..
Shhhhs..
Get yourself a law degree,Buy the Dallas cowboys ..The rest Is easy :)

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i have to disagree with Rokin

last time I told a woman that I was a lawyer that owned a pro football team, she disbelieved me and 'accidently' spilled her drink down my slacks :-(

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P. S. All this great Advice form those whom prolly never Picked Up a woman in their life ..haha!!!

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Sum_Southern_Sugar wrote:i have to disagree with Rokin

last time I told a woman that I was a lawyer that owned a pro football team, she disbelieved me and 'accidently' spilled her drink down my slacks :-(

Hey Dude.. ..Listen to SUM..I Got this feelin he's got the answer's your looking for lol
And i 'm Just Messin..I really Don't Know.. I been with the same woman for 25 yrs ..Cause I got...
* NO* game :)

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Yes this list is lengthy, but worth reading through...Good places to meet women? Daily life activities! The easiest way to start off conversations is using the subject of where you are at the time, which is a great place to just be yourself.

(In no particular order) >>>

College with women getting higher degrees or at night school where they take classes for their hobby in something YOU like too.

Places that sell books and/or coffee where you may get to sit down and chat.

Of course the gym / in female populated fitness classes i.e Yoga, Pilates, etc.

Tennis courts with a guy pal (and play next to two other girl pals, allow your ball to, oops, roll into their court - then ask if they'd like to play doubles -specifically to split it up with a guy/girl on each side.

If it's your thing - places of worship.

Always weddings.

At a friends work party or BBQ, (not your own work party). It's similar to a friend of a friend thing, except it works like an accidental meeting up.

At ball games when people are tailgating next to you, (ask to borrow ketchup etc.).

Joining technically oriented clubs - cars, bikes, computers.

Fundraisers and Benefit Concerts/or walkathons for charities.

Dog parks.

Laundry facilities.

Certain shopping areas.

At a birthday party where you are invited as a tag along and don't know the group. (girls there always love seeing a fresh face in the crowd).

Record stores (one browsing in the section of music YOU like).

Health food/organic food stores.

Baby showers where both men and women attend. (The single ones there are very serious relationship minded, hint hint)

Poetry/open mic coffee shops.

Here's an odd one but a good one - at a beauty parlor/ and get yourself a dudes manicure/pedicure and sit next to a friendly gal who's having one too in those big lounging massaging chairs,...already she's in a great mood, talkative and you can check out her great laugh by joking around about your mani-pedi.

Believe it or not, at building supply/hardware stores.

An amusement park where you pull out the wit: funny one-liners can break the monotony of waiting in long lines.

Cooking classes.

And outdoor summer park festivals.

Worst place (besides a bar): Planned Parenthood waiting for the girls who come out crying.

LOL.

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rokin1 wrote:P. S. All this great Advice form those whom prolly never Picked Up a woman in their life ..haha!!!

seriously though... like Novella said, don't rule out anywhere as a place to meet a prospective mate....

i used to be a bar tender... we had all sorts in there, regulars, partiers, people who just went out to have a pint without wanting to get drunk (or necessarily hook up)

i'd say the ice breaker is the big one... a mate of mine used to jokingly say (in a rather broad yorkshire accent) "excuse me luv have you gorran axe?"

as for lines, i wouldn't really bother with them... most sound too contrived and typically suggest that you're looking for a quick fix rather than something long term...

just try and strike up casual conversation, topic more easily based on where you are...
oh, and watch "Hitch".... :D

if you approach a woman, you don't need to tell her that you're interested... the fact that you walked up to her in the first place should be enough of a hint to her...

"any time, any place, any where.... any man can sweep any woman off her feet.... he just needs the right broom"

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i suppose the bar thing depends on geographical location... i recall that a lot of bars in D.C. were essentially meat markets.... this side of the pond tho, bars are often just places people go after work, have a pint/coffee/whatever to just unwind after a day of work and put it behind them....

should someone catch your eye, and look a bit stressed/frazzled, try to go to the bar at the same time they do, and since they'll more than likely look at you to see whose walking towards the bar, exchange glances and ask, "rough day?"

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Id simply say ..be yourself... no need to go over the top or try too hard, women are more drawn to honesty and being natural..Good Luck!

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No idea really except there are many things in life that are heavy going and difficult to deal with. If you make her feel that being with you is going to be fun, then that's a priceless start.

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Just curious ..Wut ya need a woman for anyways ?? :)

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rokin1 wrote:Just curious ..Wut ya need a woman for anyways ?? :)

To let you know where to find them.

;o)

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